Close your eyes for a minute: imagine you are a baby! You see your parents fighting, you get into a bad car accident and your not in a carseat, and evuantually your even maybe thrown out into a snow bank. Some of you had a time seeing that! Well, guess what? My daughter lived that!
My beautiful princess was taken from her birth mom at 6 months old and placed in a foster home with her mom(as her mom was underage as well). The foster mom tried working with her birthmom but because her mom was a teenager she basically had a very hard time even taking resposibility for Silena. Due to this Silena was moved again...don't lose count...this is move #2. And for some reason it worked out for 5-6 months and then she was moved again...move #3. The "Godwink" about where she was in the third house...was this house is a block away from where we live! The summer before she came with us her foster parents actually attended our church and Silena's godparents were friends with them. Well, you guessed it, she only made it in this home 5-6 months as well...move #4! The house she was in before us was excellent they took such good care of her, but because of their age they were ready to retire and not take care of a baby.
In the summer of 2007 our princess came to live with us! It has been a very hard road...times where she would literally throw tantrums ALL day long. As soon as she was done with one she would start another one. Craig and I had enough child experience to know that something wasn't right...so we took her to a child psychologist. During these visits she was diagnosed as gifted! That meant that not only did we have normal 2-3 year old behavior, attachment and adoption isssues, but now we had the fact that she is very smart! Awesome! But God knows...
The behavior that we have seen I have NEVER seen in a child or experienced with any other child. She had so much anger built up that the only way she knew to express it was through action instead of words. She has destroyed her room a many times, I have been peed on, scratched, spit at, hit, pushed and kicked numerous times. Many days where I questioned and asked God if he really knew what he as doing!
I am not telling you this to get sympathy or for you to think Silena is a bad kid. She loves helping others, she is prayer warrior, and she has a huge heart! I am talking about this because I want people to realize what foster kids go through and how far they can come. She still has work to do but I am proud of how God has guided us in helping her to overcome what has happened so far.
Lesson: God gives us kids not only for us to teach and guide, but uses our kids to help HIM mold and shape us into better people as well!
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